Last month I asked "What will you do this year if you weren't afraid?" In celebration of Valentine's Day I want to ask three questions: What do you Fear? What do you Desire? What do you Love?
The feelings of love come forth when you value and respect someone or something. You care about their well-being. You truly listen to what they have to say. You respect their opinions. Feeling respected and valued is key to any successful professional relationship. Throughout the past year, I have learned to recognize from the first meeting whether these qualities exist in a potential client. Are they listening to what I have to say? Do they respect my opinion and what I can offer to the project? Are they humble and unpretentious? As a professional Editor, these qualities are fundamental for a successful collaboration with a Director. The value of a highly-skilled Editor has no measure on a project. An Editor brings new insight and can see potential issues, which may have not been noticed before. Filmmaking is a collaborative process and the Editor is an essential aspect of the process. I have been in many situations where these qualities have existed; I'm thankful and grateful for the people I've had the pleasure to work with. However, I've also been in situations where these qualities did not exist. The project becomes stressful, rife with tension and worse of all I feel disrespected and undervalued.
A deep-rooted fear I have is that I am not worthy and I do not belong. These fears are wrapped around issues of childhood abandonment and trauma. When you name your fear and shine a light on it, you find the true nature of that fear. As Shakti Gawain states in Creative Visualization, "It is only our fear of experiencing our own feelings that can keep us trapped." As I strive to overcome these fears, I know I will have better professional relationships, which will lead to becoming a better Editor, a better Filmmaker and a better Storyteller. My ultimate desire in life is to be a Storyteller -- to tell stories that challenge people's perceptions of the world around them. This is my one true love.
What will I do this year if I weren't afraid? I will start another personal project and see it to completion. I will be getting back on the horse so to speak. I have been knocked down in the past because of my deep-rooted fears, which got the best of me. I am very excited about this project and can see the potential. More will come of this project in the coming months, so stay tuned!
So again I challenge each of you to:
Let go of fear.
Follow your path to love.
Peace and Love,